I wholeheartedly agree that confidence is a reflection of your relationship with yourself. And being consistent — prioritizing yourself — I agree is correlated with self-love.

As a recovering perfectionist, I’m looking to integrate some of these ideas into my own philosophies of life. I used to have a lot of rules for myself, and I would often feel high stress trying to stay in alignment with those rules.

This idea of making a decision and committing to it — being in 100% — could it reach a point of being rigidity that is unproductive?

I suppose it goes back to your devotion vs. discipline, Benjamin — that if I’m fully devoted to something that it won’t be rigid, it will just be fueled by a clear desire.

I like the idea a lot of minimizing decisions — being already committed to how I’m going to move forward in life. I also don’t want to feed the inner perfectionist who feels inadequate when it drops to 90%. I’m still trying to find my right balance of being committed and hard-driving while allowing space for self-compassion in the moments when I’m not at 100%.

Self-love can show up in many ways.