If you loved yourself, what would you do? Love that question. Thank you for writing this. So many people could benefit from reading this and understanding this concept. Paradox theory shows us repeatedly that things can co-exist. I focus primarily on leadership, so in my language, I speak about how empathy can co-exist with enforcing. That I do not need to lose my kindness as a leader whether I’m setting expectations or creating and maintaining culture. This mentality is how I’ve had clients who fire or let employees go, and sit down to a friendly and amicable lunch only weeks later. Thank you for sharing your wisdom, and modeling vulnerability in sharing your experience!